The silence is deafening

I don’t know what’s worse. Going to interviews that are a waste of my time, or not even getting one call. I’m starting to think getting a Masters degree has ruined any chance I have of ever getting a good job. Seriously, I am no longer getting calls for even the most basic of jobs.

I was getting calls for academic jobs, but no longer. I guess they interviewed me, hated me, and that’s that. Maybe I’m stuck up, but I just don’t think I’m that bad. I am dedicated, educated, and determined. I am a great employee. All I ask for is to be treated with some humanity and be paid a fair wage. I guess in today’s world this makes me some sort of freak of nature.

I graduated with my Masters in August of 2011. It’s now 2013. I am probably going to start leaving it off my applications and resume for certain jobs in the future. It’s depressing. I am proud of my accomplishments, but apparently none of them mater in the world of work.

My business doesn’t matter. The fact that I work from home online making money is something to be proud of. I have managed to put myself through school, and take care of my kids when I was a single woman. I’ve never had to use public assistance because of my ability to figure out how to make money. This job hunting isn’t just about money though, it’s about starting a career that I have always wanted.

We are so lied to. Women, I mean. The entirety of society believes that women can just start over. Divorce courts demand women get jobs that haven’t had jobs for 20 years. Alimony is a thing of the past, except in Hollywood. I got child support and a small alimony check for five years while I went back to school. It was fully expected that when I received my business degree I would make more than I was getting from child support, alimony, and my work from home career. I believed that, my ex believed that, and obviously the judge believed that.

I also had to live with condescension and bad treatment the entire time I collected that money. I had to do whatever I was told by my ex and his lovely wife. If I questioned one thing, or gave any sort of critique it was the end of the world. Nothing was better than the end of all that. Trust me. So no, I didn’t want it, but I had to have it. I had the kids and there was no other choice about who would have the kids. It had to be me. Believe me, I earned every last penny of that money.

Anyway, I did believe I could finish school as an “older student” and find a good career rather than a job. But, apparently it’s not realistic. I’m not the ONLY one who has this problem either. Many women all across the USA have issues with getting jobs due to family responsibility, or due to having put family first for many years.  One day, they wake up divorced, or their husband is dead, and what happens? If they can’t make enough money they’re told they are lazy, and they are definitely not regarded well if they get alimony or want alimony.

Don’t yell at me, I do understand the problem when the husband, ex or not, is also laid off and having serious financial issues too. Because, I do realize that we have a serious problem with men also in their 40’s and 50’s who’ve been laid off and not cannot find jobs and those that they do find pay a fraction of what they made prior to being laid off. I am married today to such a man. He’s in his 50’s and he is earning what he did in the 1980’s. It’s sad, he deserves so much more. It makes me crazy that some people want to end social security, knowing how it is for the boomers out there. It’s not good, that’s for sure. Without social security, many people in our age group will be completely ruined.

I really did believe I could get married, have kids, raise them, and then start my career. I am still pretty young for midlife. I know that I can and should be able to have a career if I want to. I think employers are stupid who don’t hire me. Well, not the ones who want to yell at me, and throw their arms around, and act like jerks… no, they are smart not to hire me, I won’t lie… but the honest ones who need someone to do their job and more. The good employers who need someone who will go above and beyond and be happy each and every day to walk into the door… those people should be begging me to work for them.

I do know that I have screwed up.

  • I quit jobs that sucked.
  • I walked out on people who are jerks.
  • I raised my kids and then went to college and then tried to start a career.
  • I started my own business.
  • I worked from home.

Yes, these are all screw ups in the eyes of the world. Well the world that would employee someone. I guess I should have went straight to college out of high school, worked, had kids while working, put them in child care, and that would be OK in the world of work and career.  Some people make that choice, and I’m happy for them. But it was not possible for me.

My husband was in the military. Do you know how hard it is for a military wife to ever get a decent job? I would try, and it was impossible. So, I resigned myself to being a stay at home mom. Eventually, I was really glad to be one.I loved raising my kids. They are the world to me. But they left me! They are grown. They are on their own now. I am on my own now and I don’t get why people overlook employees like me. But,they do.

I still remember my first day back to college in 2000. I was so excited about all the possibility. I have to say that I would not have gone back to school if I knew what I do now. Honestly, I don’t need the 80K and rising debt. I made MORE at jobs before I went to college. Manpower generally offered me between 10 and 15 an hour in the late 80’s and early to mid 1990’s prior to going back to school. Now, if I work for Manpower, assuming they can get me any type of job at all, it’s 8 to 10 an hour. And, they don’t call me either.

I promise you, I’m not an irresponsible person who doesn’t show up to work. I don’t get on the net during the day at work, and I don’t send text messages or talk on the phone. I work. I am that way. I work my butt off. I take responsibility for whatever job it is, as if it’s all mine and I work every moment I’m being paid to work. It’s just my personal make up. It’s why I do well in a career from home. I am self-motivated. No one has to tell me what to do.

I know others going through what I am, and it makes me really sad. If I ever win the lottery I’m going to create many businesses and hire midlife people at fair wages.

About themommygap

Mom, Wife, Business owner, trying to break into a career out of the home.
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